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T O P I C R E V I E WMineAgainHello everyone On July 31st, I started talking to a new guy who happens to be a Leo. I felt immediately attracted to him. We exchanged a few messages and got along great! He seems like a true gentleman. I was really interested initially. However, I suddenly lost interest. I stopped initiating conversation although he kept sending me messages. I'm not sure what to do because he really seems like a great guy. For some reason, my interest has significantly decreased to the point where I forget to reply to his messages. I don't want to string him along because I know how it feels to be given false hopes. I'm very much on the fence about this. I really like talking to him but for some unknown reason, I always forget to reply to him until he texts me again. Do you think I should pursue him or just let it go?He's the second Leo man I met this year. The first one was completely nuts but I was very attracted to him. This one seems more stable but I'm not sure. I'm a Scorpio by the way.Thank you for your help! Vajra.MineAgain quote:Originally posted by Vajra:Is the contact purely online? In that case my take is that one cannot ever truly find out how one feels about another person if one doesn't actually meet them in person. I can't advise you what to do about it as it seems counterintuitive to meet with someone one is not that interested in in the first place. However, there is of course a chance (Venus retro or not) that this might indeed be a great guy and that after meeting him in person, you might be happy you did. Just to give an example - the guy I'm with, and am very happy to have found, was into me way before I ever truly noticed him. I was married, so he kept his distance for years and years and merely hovered around in the outer edge of my circle of acquaintances and kept contact through friends and colleagues. I'd even forgotten his name when he finally decided to make a move. (That guy is a Scorp Sun with Leo AC, by the way.) When he did, it felt like lightning had struck me... I think I failed to notice him initially because he's unassuming, not loud (a gentleman, too), and because I'm basically a monogamous person who doesn't look elsewhere when I'm with someone. So, looking back my original "lack of interest" in him was completely misguided. With hindsight it didn't mean **** and had nothing to do with how compatible we actually are.In your situation, I guess I'd probably keep it friendly and casual and try to get to the bottom of this by actually meeting the person if that is at all possible to do, in a safe environment, of course - and if it's not possible due to huge geographical distance etc., then there's not much to be done about it anyway, is there? Yes, I met him online and I initially wanted to wait until our first meeting to make up my mind. I haven't log on that website in a week mainly because I got sidetracked. I now feel as though I'm not 100% interested because if I were, I wouldn't have to "remind" myself to answer his messages. But then again, he seems like a nice guy. AubyanneOdd question, MineAgain:Are you attracted to nice men? Ones you truly treat you properly rather than string you along? Speaking of counterintuitive, it's a shame, but for many reasons, most women have to learn to be truly attracted to gentleman and genuine nice guys.
On July 31st, I started talking to a new guy who happens to be a Leo. I felt immediately attracted to him. We exchanged a few messages and got along great! He seems like a true gentleman.
I was really interested initially. However, I suddenly lost interest. I stopped initiating conversation although he kept sending me messages.
I'm not sure what to do because he really seems like a great guy. For some reason, my interest has significantly decreased to the point where I forget to reply to his messages.
I don't want to string him along because I know how it feels to be given false hopes. I'm very much on the fence about this. I really like talking to him but for some unknown reason, I always forget to reply to him until he texts me again.
Do you think I should pursue him or just let it go?
He's the second Leo man I met this year. The first one was completely nuts but I was very attracted to him. This one seems more stable but I'm not sure.
I'm a Scorpio by the way.
Thank you for your help!
quote:Originally posted by Vajra:Is the contact purely online? In that case my take is that one cannot ever truly find out how one feels about another person if one doesn't actually meet them in person. I can't advise you what to do about it as it seems counterintuitive to meet with someone one is not that interested in in the first place. However, there is of course a chance (Venus retro or not) that this might indeed be a great guy and that after meeting him in person, you might be happy you did. Just to give an example - the guy I'm with, and am very happy to have found, was into me way before I ever truly noticed him. I was married, so he kept his distance for years and years and merely hovered around in the outer edge of my circle of acquaintances and kept contact through friends and colleagues. I'd even forgotten his name when he finally decided to make a move. (That guy is a Scorp Sun with Leo AC, by the way.) When he did, it felt like lightning had struck me... I think I failed to notice him initially because he's unassuming, not loud (a gentleman, too), and because I'm basically a monogamous person who doesn't look elsewhere when I'm with someone. So, looking back my original "lack of interest" in him was completely misguided. With hindsight it didn't mean **** and had nothing to do with how compatible we actually are.In your situation, I guess I'd probably keep it friendly and casual and try to get to the bottom of this by actually meeting the person if that is at all possible to do, in a safe environment, of course - and if it's not possible due to huge geographical distance etc., then there's not much to be done about it anyway, is there?
Just to give an example - the guy I'm with, and am very happy to have found, was into me way before I ever truly noticed him. I was married, so he kept his distance for years and years and merely hovered around in the outer edge of my circle of acquaintances and kept contact through friends and colleagues. I'd even forgotten his name when he finally decided to make a move. (That guy is a Scorp Sun with Leo AC, by the way.) When he did, it felt like lightning had struck me... I think I failed to notice him initially because he's unassuming, not loud (a gentleman, too), and because I'm basically a monogamous person who doesn't look elsewhere when I'm with someone. So, looking back my original "lack of interest" in him was completely misguided. With hindsight it didn't mean **** and had nothing to do with how compatible we actually are.
In your situation, I guess I'd probably keep it friendly and casual and try to get to the bottom of this by actually meeting the person if that is at all possible to do, in a safe environment, of course - and if it's not possible due to huge geographical distance etc., then there's not much to be done about it anyway, is there?
Yes, I met him online and I initially wanted to wait until our first meeting to make up my mind. I haven't log on that website in a week mainly because I got sidetracked. I now feel as though I'm not 100% interested because if I were, I wouldn't have to "remind" myself to answer his messages.
But then again, he seems like a nice guy.
Are you attracted to nice men? Ones you truly treat you properly rather than string you along? Speaking of counterintuitive, it's a shame, but for many reasons, most women have to learn to be truly attracted to gentleman and genuine nice guys.
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